Apr 17, 2008

Where to tread?

Being neurotic in Sydney is interesting. I have at least 10 opportunities every day to meet new people. People? Excuse me, I mean women, male applicants may apply elsewhere. Anyway, 10 opportunities... and I pass every single one of them by with a blank, indifferent stare. And why? Because who wants to be that crazy guy who makes eye contact with people on the street?

It's second person time... You're walking along, minding your business, thinking about that chicken that needs cooking, or that time you stuck your finger in a blender and then BAM! Someone is looking at you. Into your eyes so it catches your attention. You look up, ready to greet some old mate you've bumped into on the street, but then... nothing... a complete stranger is looking you in the eye wearing a funny grin. It is at this point that you
start shaking your head to refuse whatever it is they're selling. Or maybe you turn into a wolf and tear their fucking throat out for challenging your authority. Yeah... do that.

So, instead of talking to people on the street, I'll be that awkward looking guy who you can feel staring at you, while somehow, never quite actually looking at you. I really do have this down to an art-form. Yesterday I was standing at the bus stop with a bored expression and a thousand yard stare across the street, the girl standing next to me did a double-take twice to check my eyes and I almost wet myself. It must be pre-tty creepy.

So other options? Meeting people at the pub... This is next to impossible. Pubs are for hanging out with your mates. If a mate introduces you to someone then all to the good. But otherwise people just don't want to know. And I understand this, were I at a pub with friends and some dude tried to latch onto us we'd probably bar him faster than Kan-tong cooking (okay, maybe not that fast) unless he was the perfect blend of
humble enthusiasm, style and chemistry. And people like that do not talk to people like us.

Clubbing? People don't meet clubbing. Not the people I want to meet anyway.

This leaves sport, dancing, cooking classes, random recreational activities (eg. parkour or orienteering) or book clubs...

I'll let you know how they turn out.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Maybe you need to be more open to eating Kantong mate. If I hadn't have been open to it and if the 3 crazy cats I met at the Palace hadn't been open to it, you and I would never have crossed paths.

It's easy to become closed to your group of friends and feel like you don't need any more when you are comfortable in a place and social situation. But having moved cities multiple times, I know that that all changes when you find yourself in a new place where you know no one. You, once again, become open to meeting people in any matter of places and expanding your social circle again.

Maybe we need to make a conscious effort to NOT be the group at the pub that bars a random guy who is trying to make conversation. He might be another one of those freaking awesome guys from Melbs that randomly enters your friend group when you least expect it.

;)

Benny Day said...

This is a very good point Guru. I swear every time you speak I hear some little voice in the back of my head say "damn- I wish I could think like that"... and I'm trying, I'm trying.